Why do people say “truthfully” or “in truth” or “the truth of”? I mean, shouldn’t every word that comes out of our mouths be the truth? Why do we need to start what we say with those words? And does that mean that every other thing we’ve said not accompanied by those words a lie?
It’s really interesting how distorted our view of human behavior is. I mean, people nowadays are not shocked by lies. In fact, they are more amused when people are straight forward about the truth. People can always understand why a person would lie; they would even argue with you the justifications of each lie no matter how elaborate this lie may be. But the simplest truths puzzle them.
I think some people lie to other people because they want the same kind of “treatment”. The polite i-will-not-say-anything-bad-about-you-(TO YOUR FACE)-if-you’ll-do-the-same-for-me attitude is just crap. I mean, you will smile and tell nice things to and about each other face to face but as soon as you turn around, the gloves come off and the truth comes out.
I guess people just want other people to tell them what they want to hear. And I think that’s where all the acceptable lying starts from. What people don’t realize that this is borderline idiotic. Why? Well, for one, the point of asking other people’s opinion is to evaluate things, not to just say yes to anything you ask. I mean how can you improve on something if everybody would tell you you’re the best there is. Doesn’t that miss the mark completely? Another is that telling people lies is a waste of time. I mean picture this, a friend of yours asked you if she looked nice in the dress she’s wearing, and you said yes despite the fact that you think she looks ridiculous and you guys go out with her looking like that. You really think she wouldn’t be more embarrassed when people look at her in a weird way and she keeps asking you if she really looks ok? No. I mean you could have just done both yourselves a favor by telling her to change into something else and save the time and the effort arguing about the same question. And I lastly, lying doesn’t protect people’s feeling, it actually does the opposite. Remember the saying, “What you don’t know won’t hurt you?”, I think they left out the last part of it which is UNTIL YOU FIND OUT. Lying to someone just doesn’t prolong the agony, it also implies that the person you lied to doesn’t deserve the truth.
I think one of the problems is that we are just so used to lying that it’s already engraved in our system. I mean we even lie about things that we shouldn’t be lying about. We lie about things that don’t even have any bearing whatsoever. Worst case is, we even lie even if the truth is better. I mean what the hell kind of mentality is that? Some of us can even convince ourselves with a lie. Are we really that corrupted that we can’t simply tell the truth? I think people sometimes have to sit down and think about the truth. Why is it that we lie? Why is it that we prefer to hear lies? Is this really how we want our lives to be?
Here are some of the reasons why telling the truth is ALWAYS better than telling lies:
1. The truth doesn’t hurt. Yes, it doesn’t, being made a fool of hurts so much more.
2. The truth will set you free. Cliché as it may be but if you know what’s really going on, you will always know what to do.
3. It keeps things simple. You don’t have to explain anything. This truth speaks for itself.
4. It saves time. You don’t have to waste time contemplating on a lie on top of a lie explaining the other lies.
5. You will never have to remember anything.
I know it’s one of the hardest things to do, to live with the truth because we’ve been so used to the environment of lying, but why should it be? As kids we were all taught that honesty is the best policy. Why isn’t that we don’t live up to that?
The truth is the only thing worth having, and, in a civilized life, like ours, where so many risks are removed, facing it is almost the only courageous thing left to do. – E.V. Lucas