There are worse things in life. This is what I always tell myself when I’m faced with the disappointments in life. And it really doesn’t matter what kind of disappointment it maybe, I just know that the magnitude of my problems is literally nothing compared to the suffering of the world.
I’m always annoyed when people have self-pity, to the extent that I always tell them they should just commit suicide if they don’t stop complaining. Really, I do tell them that because I have no sympathy for those people who get up every morning thinking that they are losers and they can do nothing right because they’re insecure or whatever. Or maybe that their boyfriend left them and that they hate their jobs. Or that they don’t have enough money to buy material things or that they will never get anywhere. I mean wtf, people in the world have no food to eat or even water to drink and you’re complaining about not having enough money to be extravagant. Get real! Some people are just happy to be alive! They are just happy that there’s no bullets flying anywhere outside, or that somehow their addict parents don’t beat the crap out of them today. What the hell is your problem? Do you really need the whole freaking yards to be happy?
I’m not saying that it’s not ok to get insecure or feel failure, but to focus on the negatives is just so unproductive. Where will that get you? Instead of trying to make yourself better, you’re making it worse for yourself. And much worse, you’re making it hard on other people too, with all that complaining crap. People will listen, yes, but there is only too much listening and advice that people can give, you have to find the fight inside you to stay alive in order to really live.
I think the problem here is being too self-important. When you think the world stops just because you have problems or that the world will end if you don’t get exactly what you want. Newsflash, the world is indifferent towards you. Reality will not cease to exist despite how you think, the universe will not even feel it even if you die. It will have the same number of particles whether or not you’re breathing, so stop thinking that everything is about you. There is famine, death, war and all other sufferings in the world, stop being self-centered. There are a lot of tragedies in life, not getting what you want is not one of them. Stop complaining and start planning it out. Complaining will get you nowhere, stepping up and actually doing something about it will.
Unfortunately, you can’t give a person the will to live, they have to find that for themselves. You can’t teach them to live the life they are living. If they consider themselves to be hopeless, that’s their opinion and you can’t change that. No advice, no words of wisdom can move a person with a dead mindset.